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Let the More Loving One Be Me

My Journey from Trauma to Freedom

Published by She Writes Press
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

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About The Book

In this compelling tale, Judy Foreman reveals the terror she felt every night as a girl as she lay in bed frozen in dread, listening for her father’s footsteps coming down the hall.

She recalls his mostly naked body, his stale smell, his silhouette in the bedroom doorway. Worse, in some ways, was her mother’s denial—her insistence that this man was wonderful, her refusal to acknowledge his drinking or his rage. It wasn’t until Foreman spent a high school summer as an exchange student with a Danish family that she began to see how unsafe her own family was; it wasn’t until she went to an all-women’s college that she realized that women had value. Ultimately, this book shows that with time and therapy, it is possible to heal from serious childhood trauma and lead a life of deep fulfillment, rewarding work and, most wonderfully, love. It is a book about the power of emotional courage to change one’s own inner and outer experience of the world, and about what matters most in life: cultivating healthy connections to other people.

About The Author

Judy Foreman is a former Boston Globe health columnist and the author of three works of nonfiction from Oxford University Press. In 2022, she published her first novel, CRISPR’d, from Skyhorse Publishing. A Wellesley College grad (Phi Beta Kappa), she spent three years as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Brazil and has a master’s from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. She was a Lecturer on Medicine at Harvard Medical School, a Fellow in Medical Ethics, also at Harvard Medical School, a Knight Science Fellow at MIT, and a Senior Fellow at the Schuster Institute for Investigative Journalism at Brandeis University. She has won more than fifty journalism awards, including a George Foster Peabody Award and a Science in Society award from the National Association of Science Writers. She lives outside of Boston with her husband.

Product Details

  • Publisher: She Writes Press (August 29, 2023)
  • Length: 152 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781647425975

Raves and Reviews

“From a shocking and revealing start, Judy Foreman’s memoir is riveting. We can see a woman of great success and envy her hold on life. But in this painfully honest account, we find sexual abuse, parental alcoholism, illness, love, loss, and resiliency. In the end, it can inspire others to overcome the challenges that life may throw at us.”
—Matt Storin, retired editor of The Boston Globe

“Foreman, an undaunted truth-seeker, describes herself as ‘a regular old human being . . . trying to understand what we are all doing here.’ If this is true, the rest of us ordinary humans can take heart. She is the perfect example of what William Faulkner described when stressing his belief that humanity ‘will not merely endure: (we) will prevail.’ She has given us a testament to the resilience of a spirit ever reaching toward love—and finding it.”
—Mara Wagner, psychoanalyst and professor at the Boston Graduate School of Psychoanalysis

“Foreman's lovely memoir about growing up with abusive and emotionally absent parents is transformative and shiningly hopeful. The book delivers funny and wise vignettes sometimes set in the vibrant newsroom of the Boston Globe, where she worked as a journalist for decades. Foreman exudes a courageous determination to discover how to give and receive life-changing love despite a childhood where love was nowhere to be found. From where I sit as a therapist who works with trauma survivors, this is nothing short of a miracle. A wonderful, wonderful read.”
—Eileen Lynch, psychologist specializing in complex trauma

“Wonderful! I laughed, feared, and cried throughout this talented woman’s courageous sharing of the truths, loving, traumas, and impermanence of our lives. As a syndicated medical journalist, musician, and woman who dares to look inward, Judy Foreman has embraced the opposite of her childhood silence. The reader is healed and informed.”
—John Livingstone, MD, former director of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and consultant in Clinician Selfcare, Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital

“For decades at the Globe, Judy Foreman used her research and writing skills to all our benefit, educating her readers about crucial health issues and the politics of information and access. Now she has turned those skills to crafting a powerful memoir of her own life. As Foreman traces how she emerged from under the shadow of early sexual abuse and toxic parenting, readers will learn from her anew. Foreman’s capacity for compassion and deep friendships has clearly contributed to the power of her journalism and offers constructive guideposts for navigating our relationships with loved ones.”
—Judy Norsigian and Wendy Sanford, coauthors of Our Bodies, Ourselves

“Judy Foreman has always been one of the most intelligent writers I know. In this brave and deeply personal memoir, she takes us on a journey from early trauma to engaging insider accounts of her years at The Boston Globe. With thoughtful insight and a wry, poetic sense of humor, Judy shows us how friendship, swimming, therapy, and song have all helped her to emerge and flourish as her fully realized, loving self.”
—Laura Kramer, MD, psychiatrist

“This important survivorship story reminds us that men’s sexual violence—and all male violence against women and girls—requires more men and male-identified peoples to step up and find ways to prevent and stop this abuse. Foreman’s memoir will invite more men to do just that.”
—Craig Norberg-Bohm, founder, former board member, and staff of the North American MenEngage Network

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